My Lesbionic Hair cut

Several months ago I decided to stop coloring my hair. I haven't had natural hair color for almost 12 years. I stopped while I was pregnant with Le. My husband bought me a gift certificate to my salon as a "birth day" present after she was born. I had my hair colored again when she was 10 days old. It's been every color of the rainbow except jet black. All shades of red, purple even bleach blond. But I thought I try the natural look for awhile. All of the women in my mother's family (except her) went white by the time they were 20. They all had big boobs and no butts. My mother got no boobs and a big butt and like mother like daughter. She still has only a small amount of gray at almost 70. I am almost 80% gray. The only way to let my hair grow out the color was to cut it very short ala Jamie Leigh Curtis. Most of my friends have been really supportive. The only person I was worried about was my husband. He has never cared what I did to my hair. Long, short, curly, straight. Never mattered. But now I feel like I look so much older than he does. He is 4 years younger than I am and I feel for the first time in our relationship, I look my age.
The other night I had the great pleasure of meeting a friend of a friend. Scott is an openly gay man totally in love with his new husband Dan. He and I got along fantasticaly till he refered to my Lesbionic haircut. Now who would know better than a gay man about lesbionic hair? So now what do I do. Leave it natural and short or go back to coloring and let it grow? Now that everybody knows how much gray I have I think I'll look silly coloring again. But this really bothered me. It saves me $100 plus amonth but I feel old and ugly. What to do ...oh what to do.